Situation number 1: Hiring or finding a babysitter. Making arrangements to meet friends. Having friends be non-committal or flaky. Having a babysitter with nothing to do.
Situation number 2: Having someone volunteer to babysit for free at last minute. Gathering the troops without much warning, getting them fed, dressed, packed, ready. Carting them across town. Trying to get MYSELF looking presentable. Calling around trying to find something to do. Going out and feeling ready to go to sleep after one drink.
Situation number 3: Making plans ahead. Sending kids to Grandma's for the weekend. While getting ready to go out after a long week, realizing that I'll never make it for the 11 pm meeting time because I'm so exhausted. End up being a flake and watch a movie on the couch alone.
It just hardly feels worth it!
But I MISS adult companionship. And I'm not just talking about dating. Because yes, while there are parts of having an attractive member of the opposite sex to lock lips with that would be nice, I really DON'T miss the emotional roller coaster. I just miss being social. With people who don't ask me what every other word I say means, and who can respond with something insightful, but mostly with people who I'm not responsible for! Whose bad behavior I can laugh at and I don't have to be a role model so I can swear or tell dirty jokes or... well, you know.
My solution? Tapas Tuesdays! I decided that during the summer, I am going to have an open house every Tuesday. I'll make it a regular thing and even if I only get 1 person, there will be someone to talk to who understands 3 syllable words. I'm making it a family friendly event but am really hoping that people who don't have kids will stay later and mine will go to bed just like the children in The Sound of Music and then the fun will really begin. Maybe, maybe we'll play speed scrabble or something crazy like that!
In conclusion, I am too much of a lazy ass to go out, so instead, I'm bringing the party home!
Maybe it will be a dance party like this:
I'm just another lame-o tired mom, but I'm so there! Maybe we can put our heads together and devise an incentive to get the cool kids to come over!
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